Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Coming to you from Trondheim, Norway.

Many of you have asked me for “here’s-how-it’s done” demos of how to use my girl-getting techniques, so here we go.

Watch this short clip of me putting the lovely Alexis into trance, using the information and feedback she gave me during the Sarge.  Be sure to leave a comment below.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. This clip is from my recent LIVE 3-Day Seminar in New York City.  Our next live seminar is just a week away – August 13-15, 2010, in London.  Find your reasons to join me by clicking here to learn more and reserve your seat (you can bring a friend, too.)

P.P.S. Can’t make it to London?  No worries, we’ll catch you next time.  In the meantime, you REALLY should consider this (click here).

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In past editions of this blog, I’ve delved into how to Sarge when you’re out somewhere without a wingman and you’re trying to “break in” to the circle when everyone else seems to be there with all their friends.

Well, here’s a question I’ve been asked several times in the past couple weeks (that also comes up often in our live seminars, group coaching calls, forums, and discussion groups):

What do you do when the woman you’re interested in has an overprotective “guy friend” around?

When you try to find out if he’s her boyfriend – “So how long have you two been together?” - she says “Oh, he’s just a friend.  We’re not boyfriend/girlfriend.” However, it seems like he’s always around, interrupting every attempt you make to create excitement and get her all giddy wanting you, not to mention inserting himself into every single conversation.

When he’s not around, she mentions him frequently, often beginning sentences with “(insert his name here) says…” or “(insert his name here) thinks…” Even if she didn’t say the words, you just KNOW that if you and her ever got in an argument, he’d be in your face “defending” her.

So, how do you get this guy to stop c**K-blocking you, when he’s not even her boyfriend?

First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most, let me ask you:

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

That being said, before you go any further, consider the following.

• Simple fact: he’s “around all the time” because she wants him to be.  That’s the bottom line.  This overrides all.

But, that being said:

1. Could be, she’s not on the market. She might have a boyfriend who’s on an extended trip (in military service, long-term overseas client project, etc) and this guy is a friend of theirs who “looks out” for her as a favor to her boyfriend
2. Maybe he’s consigned to her “friend zone” and he comes from a place of scarcity and “hangs around her” to keep what little she gives him.  If that’s the case, he has a vested interest in sabotaging every man who Sarges on her.
3. Have you tried befriending him, or do you just go silent, sulky, and mopey-faced when he “interrupts”? When you show the world that you are a positive, engaging person, you outshine the AFC competition.  Remember: you don’t have to outrun the bear.  You just have to outrun the other guy the bear is chasing.

Maybe it’s #3.  Open yourself to the possibility.  Give her a chance by giving him a chance.  However, if he really is giving you the third degree and is there entirely to cause you problems, you might gain some clues from what this student did.

Peace and piece.
RJ

P.S. Ready to get control of your life and your social situations and start meeting, flirting, dating, seducing, and sleeping with sexy, beautiful women, fast and easy… no matter who’s around?

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Ever heard the term “woman hater”?  It’s the first thing that comes to mind when I relate this story about a student of mine:

The problem: he was prone to use terms like bit*h, sl*t, and who*e (without the astericks of course) when talking about (and sometimes TO) women.  It’s like showing a sign of hate toward them.

I called him on it, and he explained it as a “love-hate” thing – he disliked women, but he loved them even more.  He was trying to figure out where the dislike comes that led them to use these bad words in describing them.

He used to have a girlfriend (for over 3 years) and he would call her a “fat sl*t” all the time.  Like a self-fulfilling prophecy, she gained a lot of weight… and also cheated on him.  My student “got even” (as he put it) when she called him one morning and another woman (who had stayed the night with him) picked up and told her never to call him again.

So the bottom line: he didn’t want to have this feeling of bit*h, sl*t, and who*e, etc. with women.  Instead, he wanted a “better vision” when it came to approaching women.

Here’s What You’re Probably REALLY
So Angry About

If this student’s tale is something YOU can relate to, STOP beating yourself up and LISTEN to what I’m about to say.

First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: the past isn’t who you are and it isn’t what you deserve.

I’ve always held that once you completely let go of whatever makes you angry at women, you’ll find that deep down inside there is a fear of rejection.

I’m not normally a betting man, but I’ll wager that as you meet good, quality women, you will realize that whatever happened between you and your ex (or any other women you’ve been mean to in the past) really wasn’t a big deal, at least not in the “grand scheme.”

It was a mistake or a misunderstanding between two people and there is no reason to hold it against yourself or anyone else.  So you did wrong – accept it, respect it, LEARN FROM IT.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The key is to take any and all confusion, frustration, and stuckness you’ve ever experienced with women, and convert it to pure, immediately usable learning, so you can bounce right back, and automatically do things right with the next woman.  Click here to learn how to go about this…

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

One of the most powerful “side effects” of mastering your girl-getting game is also achieving a level of power and mastery in other walks of life that you never thought possible.

Reminds me of a Sarge report I got from a student not too long ago about how my teachings not only got him the girl, but also saved him from getting his head caved in!

You heard it here first: Speed Seduction® is a life-saver – literally!

Join me for a moment as we explore…

How The “Boyfriend Destroyer” Pattern Got Him The Girl…
Then Sargy Persuasion Kept Him From Getting Destroyed…
By The Boyfriend!

Here’s what happened.  A student of mine was on the phone with another student of mine, then next thing you know, he sees some guy come charging into his apartment (without knocking) DEMANDING to speak with his roommate. My student put the phone down and dealt with this confrontation with this intruder, who is screaming and yelling and about to start tearing the place up…

My student manages to persuade this guy to wait outside while he gets his roommate, then gets back to his phone call.  Things cooled off for a minute… then next thing you know, the intruder is back… and angrier than ever.  Charges right past my student and goes to his roommate’s door and starts pounding on the door, saying “Get out here so I can kick your f@@king a@@ RIGHT NOW you lousy son of a….”

So my student sets the phone down again, gets the intruder to slow down just a bit, and says to the intruder, “Stop and imagine how you would feel if someone were to force their way into your home. Wouldn’t you want them to be cool and go outside?”

It was like magic.  The angry boyfriend instantly chilled out and was easily led outside.  Crisis diffused!

Why Was This Intruder So Flippin’ Angry??

Here’s what happened: my student’s roommate was banging this angry guy’s girlfriend (she told him she was single… what my student’s roommate should do about this lying chick is another story)… and she was in his room AT THAT MOMENT. The boyfriend put two and two together and followed her there, then sat outside for awhile getting good and pissed off before bounding up to destroy this “boyfriend destroyer” who was making his chick.

My student made strategic use of suggestions and embedded commands to diffuse the situation and lead the intruder’s imagination… outside.  Go back up and read what my student told this angry boyfriend and tell me how many commands and suggestions you find.  See how this works?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Moral of the story: see what happens when you have Sargy, persuasive power?  It becomes a reservoir of knowledge you can draw upon at-will, whenever necessary or desired, anytime, anyplace, anywhere.

Click here to learn how to get people eagerly doing your bidding in every walk of life…

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

There’s a song by Eddie Money that goes “I wanna go back, and do it all over…but I can’t go back…” Actually, this raises a good question.  CAN you go back?

Maybe there’s a hottie from your past whose “friend zone” you got caught in, or she’s that former classmate you didn’t (at the time) have the balls to pass a “love note” to.

Maybe she’s a former co-worker you seriously had the hots for, but you didn’t want to dip your ink pen in the company well.  You don’t work there anymore and she still writes on your Facebook wall from time to time… and (per her latest profile pic, anyway) she’s still as hot as she was back when you couldn’t focus on your work for an hour after she walked by your desk, with a current “status” of “Single” to boot.

Or maybe she’s someone who rejected you, and you totally blew it (or you rejected yourself by never making a move) and….ohhh…if ONLY she could experience the new, Sargy you….what could happen?

No matter what, she’s on your mind.  A lot.  So the question becomes…

Can You Bring This One Back To Life…
Or Is It Time To Move On?

Well you have two choices. 

Choice one, stop fretting and make your move.

Or, you can CHOOSE to change your feelings about the girl.

Actually, as I look at this, the reason you think about her is you invested lots of feeling in the girl PRIOR to even making out with her, much less f@@king her.

Now listen, and listen up: Speed Seduction® isn’t just about the words you use to f@@k chicks, although, bless Sargy, that is a big part of it. It’s also about a different understanding about how the “feelings” process works.

In this case, your “feelings” for the girl didn’t just enter into your body like an arrow shot by Cupid in your ass.

No, you SELF-HYPNOTIZED yourself into the girl.

I’ll bet dollars to dildos you did this by daydreaming about her, fantasizing about this salacious co-worker throwing herself on your desk and cooing “Hey big guy, I thought we were scheduled for a ‘staff’ meeting…here it is… (looks at watch)…. about six after nine in the morning… we have some ‘hard topics’ to cover…”

In the case of the chick you “blew it” with… you replay it in your mind, except you imagine the version where you didn’t trip on your Johnson or whatever else happened that things didn’t progress.

Please use this as a lesson on what NOT to do, first and foremost.

Remember: you never know where you stand with a woman until you make that first serious physical pass, so you don’t consider a woman a serious prospect until AFTER you’ve taken a ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle and experienced “blast-off”.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Sick and tired of letting sexy, beautiful women pass right in front of you while you sit there virtually paralyzed not knowing exactly what to do or say to meet them?  Knowing later on, you’ll WISH it had been otherwise?  Click here to learn how to make it happen THIS time, instead of (in your mind) later….

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Another so-called “axiom” that I can’t STAND… yet another example of how smart men nonetheless get socially programmed into Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs) is this:

“Nice guys finish last.”

So, if I’m following this, women claim (as reinforced by the romance industry) that women want sweet, sensitive, NICE guys… because they, too, are programmed that they’re “supposed” to… but deep down, they want a “bad boy” or even a “jerk” because supposedly they’re more “exciting.”

People: you can’t have it both ways.

For this one student of mine, being a “bad boy” does not come naturally to him.  He’s charming, and he’s got girl-getting game.  But he thinks something’s “missing” – namely, that “bad boy” persona that he is convinced is the cooter-soaking “cinch” that will have him beating off the babes with a stick…as opposed to…well…you get the picture.

Here’s where this student thinks he’s stuck…

What happens in my own seduction process is that sooner or later, something happens and women decide I fall in the “nice guy” category. I don’t do the “AFC” thing – I do not attach excess meaning to any one woman I’m sarging.  I don’t put up with games or nonsense, and I clearly position myself as “the prize” (limited availability).

Some reason though I end up as the guy they want as the “boyfriend” and not the fling.  So bottom line, women tend to take more time before hopping in the sack with me because they see me as “boyfriend material” rather than a “disposable fling.”  Maybe if I was more of a “bad boy,” the woman would show me her “bad girl” side.

Wow. So women think you’re a prize catch?  What a terrible problem to have!

Seriously though, I think there are ways to approach this without having to reinvent yourself as a character from an early Marlon Brando movie.

Perhaps you simply need to better structure her expectations from the beginning.  As in, not seeing her more than once a week (instead of “always being there”). Not allowing yourself to be available for large chunks of time (so she sees you as a “prize” she needs to work for, rather than the doormat who’s always on her front step). Or, simply, better screening to find women who really are only looking for flings, if that’s what you want.

Or you may just have to stop being such a champ in the sack that she decides you MUST be a “keeper” and tries to hoard you for herself, ONLY!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. It’s true both ways: “bad boys” can’t pull off a “nice guy” act anywhere as convincingly as a genuine Nice Guy.  What if, instead of trying to be something you’re not, you had a “stealth charisma” that was subtly attractive, completely undetectable, and utterly independent of any external validation from anyone?  Click here to learn how to get it, starting now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Whenever I hear someone is in a relationship, my first question: is it a relationship, or a real-hate-shun-ship by default?

Before we go any further, let me be clear: if you’ve found that special someone, and it’s truly right for both of you, GOOD ON YOU!

However, about 50% of all marriages are doomed to divorce.  They say it’s because “values are changing” or “people don’t respect the sanctity of marriage anymore”, etc.  Whatever.

No. NOT true.

Why do guys stay in “real-hate-shun-ships by default?”

Here are some of the stunning reasons I’ve heard over the years, often from guys who otherwise seem to have life handled:

• “It’s cheaper to keep her.”  (He fears having to pay up in a divorce settlement, so he endures a living hell and possibly finding the REAL woman of his dreams, simply to avoid writing a check which might be his ticket to lifetime happiness.)
• “She was my high school sweetheart, and our families have been friends for generations.  It would upset a lot of people if we broke up.” (So, WHO ARE YOU MARRIED TO, pal???)
• “We stay together for the kids.” (Yeah, the kids who live in a miserable home because your real-hate-shun-ship ain’t workin’.  Kids DO see what’s going on.)
• “I was taught: you’re supposed to be married by the time you’re 30, and you have a responsibility to provide grandchildren for your parents.” (So, everyone in your family has ALWAYS been HAPPY and has made PRODUCTIVE CONTRIBUTIONS?)
• “Man, I’ve never had a girl as fine as she is.  And hey, nothing’s perfect.  I can deal with her spazzing out on me because I probably won’t find one THIS hot ever again.” (Correction: I calculate there are 34,000 women at least as hot as she is.)
• “Happiness is what they put in the movies.  This is REAL LIFE, Ross, not some fairy tale.  I don’t play games.” (No XBox for you, huh?)

Let me add: Speed Seduction® ain’t just about getting laid.  Want a girlfriend?  Looking for a wife?  Great!  Then use my teachings to cut through the bull***t “dating rituals” and “social programming” and you’re MORE LIKELY to find a life partner who will satisfy you in every way.  In fact, my teachings also help guys who are married and in relationships keep the “spark” burning hot.

Look: it’s your life.  You deserve the opportunity to create the results and the happiness with the women you truly desire.  Are you living a life of fulfillment, or a life by default?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Are you fed up having to settle for low quality, average women, or worse – being alone?  Well, if you CHOOSE to live a life by default, it really is your fault.  Because you don’t have to.  Click here for a solution that skips over the nonsense and gets you the women you REALLY want.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

One of the biggest discussions in the “PUA” community is about being “Alpha” or “dominant”.

As I’ve said before, when you are seeking answers from “experts” beware of answers that are half true or incomplete.

In this video, I go into what it means to be dominant, as contrasted with abusive or domineering. Also take note of the responses of the female volunteer and notice how I am very subtle in my dominance.

Watch the video then tell me what you think:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you missed the NYC Seminar, you have a chance to join us in London on August 13-15.  Can you make it?  Click here to learn more.

P.P.S. With what I teach you throughout my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you’ll remain calmly in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

It will give YOU all the confidence of a man who maintains control and exudes a dominance that women find appealing.

Claim yours and take charge of your girl-getting game today!

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Fans of the long-running TV show, M*A*S*H, will remember the exciting girl-getting exploits of camp ladies’ man, Corporal Walter Eugene “Radar” O’Reilly.

Yes. Really. Radar.

The short, nearsighted, naive, teddy-bear-hugging, comic-book-reading, not-all-that-handsome farmboy from Ottumwa, Iowa. Radar.

You think I’m kidding? You think I’ve lost it?  Let’s go through the exhibits, and I’ll briefly recap what happened and share my feedback where I can.

(NOTE: All images are screen captures and are copyright to Twentieth Century Fox.  They are presented here as illustrations for a research project only.  I strongly urge you to support the actors by purchasing the DVDs, all of which are available for sale on leading retailers like Amazon.)

Here we see Radar, who has been studying up on Bach and Tolstoy to impress a highly cultured new nurse.  While he utilized his girl-getting game as an opportunity to expand his overall horizons, he was doing it to impress the girl – not good.  In the end, he got so bored with the seduction he fell asleep during dinner.  (There is no shortage of women, nor are there a shortage of women for YOU.  Don’t “settle.”)

There’s an unexploded bomb in the compound, and Radar encounters a bombshell of a nurse who has other forms of “explosion” on her mind.  He tries to wink at her, and for the effort, she takes him off to the supply tent.  A fine example of frame control, resetting the mood, and redirecting her energies in a Sargy sort of way.  Well played.

Radar was shy around this nurse who loved poetry.  He came over to her tent one night to share a book of poems, and she pounced on him like a tigress in heat.  Turns out she thought his shyness around her was him being a “heartbreaker” and “playing hard-to-get.”  Question: what women do you know might need just a nudge to pounce on YOU?

There are several scenes where this particular nurse comes onto Radar.  Sometimes he knows what to do and they dance or make out…sometimes he blows it.  I would ask, what would he need to get his game “on tap” so he can draw from it at-will?

Not his finest hour.  This Korean woman claimed (falsely) that Radar fathered her baby.  Sick of being teased by the likes of Hawkeye, Trapper, and Frank, Radar, in turn, falsely claims responsibility.  (Good thing Hawkeye had the blood test results in-hand to bail Radar out!)

But, two minutes later, the same giggly, flirty nurse from two shots up encounters Radar by chance.  Very excited to see him, she asks him out and he accepts.  Hawkeye recommends Radar wear the paratrooper scarf that seems to drive women wild.  Radar thinks about it.  (Awareness of your “style” that drives women crazy for you – and into your bed – is a critical factor.)

This nurse is fed up with Radar dropping off the mail and shuttering out the door. Her exact words: “When are you going to make a REAL delivery?” He resists because she outranks him.  (However, he soon gets accidentally promoted.  She then REJECTS him because she prefers the “underdog”)….

….However, once the mistake is corrected and he’s restored to Corporal, Radar drops off that package she was asking about earlier.  (Lesson: it’s who you ARE that is more likely to attract women NOW, than who you WISH you were.)

Radar spent an entire episode being shy, trying to figure out how to get this new nurse to notice him and using half-assed pick-up lines to attempt conversation.  Turns out, the whole time her eyes were wide open to what he offered.  All he had to to was tell her he was interested! Here you see him at the officers’ club with the “prettiest girl in camp.”  SCORE!

Radar’s on his way back to the 4-0-Double-7 when he encounters this sizzling hot farmgirl who grew up not too far from him.  If this is an indicator, I bet when he got discharged, his homecoming was pretty sweet.  (Gee, how many double entendres are in THAT sentence?)

Here’s the thing.  If Radar can do it, so can you.  Over and out.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When Radar needed mentoring and guidance on how to work it with the ladies, who did he turn to?  Hawkeye, whose own girl-getting game was par excellence.  We learn from those who have succeeded before us.

P.S. Would you like 20 years’ of cutting-edge, it-doesn’t-get-any-better-than-that teaching on your side and in your corner?  Click here to see what would have gotten Radar TWICE the women, had it been invented back in 1951.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Mel Gibson should check out some reruns of a TV show called ‘NYPD Blue’

For those of you who have not heard of this show (which ran from 1993-2005), the main character was Detective Andy Sipowicz… who, to say the least, was not an AFC in how he did his job.

Problem was, in his personal life and with women, he was a train wreck.  When we first meet Andy, he’s a longtime alcoholic, about to lose his career and estranged from his son.  He sought solace in booze and hookers.

Now, the Sipowicz story is legendary – bald, overweight, middle-aged Everyman twice marries much younger, hotter women, has several encounters with other hotties between the two marriages, and has women chasing him throughout.  I could write a book.  But for this article, I’m only going to deal with his seduction of Sylvia (the “pissy little bitch” I talk about below.)

In the very first scene, we see Andy Sipowicz humiliated on the witness stand when it’s revealed he slashed a mobster’s tires so he could see in the guy’s trunk without a warrant.  When the district attorney prosecuting the case shares her “concern” with Sipowicz because his misbehavior got her case thrown out, his response to her:

(while grabbing his crotch) “Hey, ipsa this you pissy little bitch!”

After a life-changing experience (getting shot by a hit-man during a tryst with his favorite hooker), Sipowicz gets sober by default (Mr. Daniels and  Mr. Beam don’t work at the ICU).

Now seeing clearly, he gets his career back on track, rebuilds his relationship with his son…and eventually asks Sylvia out to dinner.  When she expresses shock and asks why she would want to have dinner with HIM of ALL people, he says “I don’t know, you do or you don’t.”

She decides she does.

Soon, they become an item, and after several delays due to things that “keep coming up” at Andy’s apartment, she spends the night at his place.

What happens next?

Then it’s time to meet her family.  At a birthday party, where the liquor flows as freely as the laughter.  Testing himself, Sipowicz takes a drink.  Then another.  Cut to later that night when he throws Sylvia out in a drunken rage where all his demons (anger, hate, prejudice, self-loathing – sound familiar?) come out.

Over the next several months, Sipowicz gets more serious about self improvement.  He attends AA meetings and works with a sponsor.  Through persistent outreach he starts rebuilding his relationship with his son.  With the support of his partners, as well as a boss who proves more understanding than Sipowicz expected, he works on his negative attitudes and stereotypes and becomes more open and receptive.

Eventually, he creates another chance with Sylvia.  This time, he doesn’t blow it.  They get married, and at age 48 he becomes a father again.  A second chance at the life that, until recently, he never thought he’d have.

Now, why should Mel Gibson take note?

Here’s why Andy Sipowicz went from “hope-to-die drunk” to fulfilled man with a solid girl-getting game, while Mel keeps sliding in the opposite direction.

• Rather than dwelling on the past and beating himself up, Sipowicz accepts his own past behavior without passing judgment.  He applies lessons from it that help him become a better man.  (Over and over women tell him: “I know who you WERE.  And that’s an important part of how you became who you ARE.”)
• Sipowicz kept postponing Sylvia’s first visit to his apartment because he was unsure of his girl-getting game (he couldn’t remember the last time he had sex sober).  Whatever was tripping his inner game, though, turned out it wouldn’t have stopped her from wanting him anyway.
• Getting sober, and his initial experiences with Sylvia showed him he COULD succeed with women who, up until that point, may or may not have given him the time of day.  He subsequently uses this as an anchor to “pull himself back” when his path to betterment takes an unexpected turn (like when he briefly starts drinking again after Andy Jr., also a policeman, is killed in the line of duty).

Note to Mel Gibson: almost everything I described is in Seasons 1 and 2, which are available on DVD. Check them out.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Andy Sipowicz was not “runway model handsome” and he had a “past” that was less than desirable (with some ongoing areas for improvement) but there are enough women who liked him that it didn’t matter.  It was really his “inner game” that had him “tripping on his Johnson.”  Learn how he turned things around, and how YOU can, too.