Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Just the other day a student of mine shared an observation with me.
The moment a woman starts with “When are you going to take me out on a date?” or “I want you to wine and dine me” he immediately, instantaneously, inexorably, and irrevocably loses interest in her.

From what he tells me, it’s not because he has taken me up on my 60-day challenge or refuses to be in thrall of the romance racketeers. Even though he does, indeed, embrace the former and reject the latter as smart men do.
As he puts it:
“There are no logistics hero action figures in the toy aisle! Many action hero figures, though.”
A “date” requires logistics. Wining and dining is nothing but logistics: reservations at the restaurant, buying the wine, selecting the best after-dinner spot to enjoy the wine, transportation to/from. And much more.
Another student told me about a street pickup he did last week that went nowhere. She told him she is unsure of her schedule because she looks after kids, doesn’t know when she gets off work, but here’s my number, give me a call, we’ll work something out. He’s losing faith as these phone numbers are not leading to “dates.”
Let’s review the latter case. First I asked him:
How long did you talk with her? What states did you generate/evoke with her? How did you link these to you and to taking further action with you?
Now I’ll say it again: this isn’t about getting the behaviors you want from women: phone numbers and dates. It’s about evoking in them the emotional states and processes (fantasy, fascination, connection) that you want linked to you.
THEN the things like phone numbers and dates become logistical details.
See the difference?
If you aren’t thinking in these terms, you aren’t doing Speed Seduction®. All that wining and dining isn’t leading to a whole lot of 69-ing, is it?
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Speed Seduction® 3.0 is your roadmap that zooms you from “zero to action hero” in your ways with the women. No more will we negotiate with her i(Don’t-Actually-Answer-My)Phone to become lucky enough to buy her dinner. Onward!