Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

I’m sick of the Seduction Community blathering on about getting “attraction”.

It’s about getting the pussy wet.

Watch:

Tell me what you think.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Seminar schedule is up now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Most guys have gotten what’s known in some circles as “the gesture” from a hot chick.

You approach her, and before you get in two words, she makes this “waving-off” hand gesture like you’re a bug who’s swarming around her. The worst part is she doesn’t even have the decency to use words, as if you’re not worthy of even that much.

That feels like she just kicked you in the groin, except you feel it… all over!

Listen: having a really attractive woman be disrespectful to a guy she thinks is going to hit on her isn’t exactly a new concept. We’ve all been there.

Typically, guys are expected to be able to act like it’s no big deal or laugh it off, chalk it up as “her loss”, and move on. Most guys, because this is what’s expected of them, try to do this.

The problem is that it doesn’t work.

Why Getting Dissed Is No “Laughing Matter” …
And How To Kick Those Pangs Of Pain In The Jewels
And Get Your Chuckles Back

Being “dissed” triggers your threat response. It’s instinctive (meaning it’s NATURAL) and it happens faster than your cognitive brain can process the information and say “whoa there, Buckaroo, she’s just a random chick, don’t get your boxers all twisted there, pal!”

Furthermore, if it’s an extremely attractive woman who disses you, you also experience a loss of esteem, like maybe you’re not the stud you imagine yourself to be. This leads to emotional pain.

Trying to laugh it off and/or brush it off causes you to suppress your feelings. This builds pressure over time. With each new insult from an attractive woman you react to ALL the previous insults as well.

You can’t be expected to come up with an effective response to a single incident if your subconscious is reacting to every past incident.

Look: you may be scoring with the ladies left and right. A student of mine tells me he had just gotten laid by two different women on two consecutive days and now has them both calling wanting to see him again. But then this other prima-donna stuck-up b%$&h waved him off like he wasn’t even human, and now he’s REALLY mad, and hurt.

So, as you look at how your anger and hurt at being dissed is boiling up within YOURSELF, ask yourself:

• What could you begin to add to it to balance your reaction to getting “dissed”?
• What about properly applying a sense of humor to the situation?
• Could you form new beliefs that you can use to respond differently?

Get these questions answered, and soon you’ll find that instead of pretending it’s “no big deal,” you’ll have a mechanism for how to properly deal with it. And that sure beats a poke in the eye (and your pride!)

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll remain calmly in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Next time she waves her hand at like you like She-Devil, you’ll have a new set of reactions that will keep your pressure-cooker on low simmer and redirect your energy toward meeting women who will “gesture” for more enjoyable, exciting things with you.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Last week here on my blog, I explained why it’s so important to stop c@&k-blocking yourself and denying yourself the opportunity to experience joy and pleasure with women because you think you’re worried she might think you’re more “not” than “hot.”

I received an e-mail from a fan who read my post and told me his dilemma. He’s 31 years old, has never gotten laid and doubts he ever will. He and has a sense of worthlesness and insecurity that he’s never “shaken” since he was a teenager who got picked on a lot in high school.

Because he got laughed at by the pretty girls he was attracted to back then, he’s still “stuck” in a pattern of being unable to approach women due to his sense that “relationships are meant for other people, not me.”

For him, it’s not about whether he’s good looking enough, it’s about what happened in his past that trips him up today.

Reach Out And Take The Key That Sets You Free
From Your Life-Sentence Of Involuntary Celibacy

I don’t know this guy’s life story, but I’d wager a dollar that his real issue is NOT where the “block” started but how, up until now, he’s been entangled in it and FEEDING it and REAFFIRMING IT.

Let me re-frame the conversation: Imagine if all of the worthlessness and insecurity he’s ever felt or experienced could be converted/refined/recycled into PURE energy for his peace of mind, balance, informed enthusiasm, and vision of the man he has become already in other areas of his life?

What if he could learn, from a place of clear eyes and new vision, without the old filters and responses (those memories of the past) standing in the way and “jumping in his line of sight” every time he “swallows hard” and “goes for broke” and FINALLY takes a “shot” at approaching a woman?

Listen: it’s not always about what you have, but rather what you do with it, that can make all the difference.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Would you like to learn about the best, most systematic, fool proof, breakthrough system for untangling the confusion and “re-infection” that keeps guys involuntarily stuck entirely based on “the past”, that ANYONE can use? I know you do.

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

Recently a student of mine began covertly recording his sarges and I’ve been commenting on them. Here is a taste of it.

I may make this a regular feature of my fantastic coaching program. You can find out more about that and how you can:

1. Talk to me four times a month(including once on live video to video conferencing)

2. Get your questions answered with a custom-made video mini-seminar that I make just for you

3. Get immediate access to over 100 video mini-seminars, plus dozens of MP3 files and PDF transcripts of prior coaching calls.

4. Get immediate access to our members’ only discussion board and get support from your peers, fellow students AND me.

This is the best damn deal in the whole seduction community.  Find out more here:

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Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Almost every day I get e-mails from smart guys like you who step up to the plate and claim their success with women without using what I call the “5 Bs” – bullying, begging, buying, BS, and booze.

The other day I received this very interesting story about the “Sarge that came back to life.” Check this out:

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Hi Ross! I’ve gotta tell you. This one time I was driving a gal home after a particularly hot adventure and we just happened past an accident scene. This guy was lying on the pavement, probably dead, though I didn’t stop to check as the ambulance was already there. Freaked her out!

I made a diversion to a local bar. We had some wine, helped her settle down, then dropped her off. Called her next morning to see if she was OK and used some advanced patterns to get her in the Sargeable frame of mind. Three days later we did the nasty, and then continued for a few months after that.

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It’s all about calibration. Calibrate, calibrate, calibrate! Each woman is different. Each Sarge is different. You have to read the woman, read the situation, and know yourself.

On the other hand, experiences like these CAN sometimes kill the Seduction permanently.

A word of caution: SOME women, despite the performance of being interested in you, really are just NOT in the market for ANYTHING. The fact that a woman is initially responsive doesn’t mean she is really “open” or even CAN be opened. A scenario like the above can be, for her, enough reason to break things off.

I can attest that with the WRONG prospect, even when you bring your top girl-getting game, it’s at best an exercise in temporary good feelings that she cannot or will not act upon… but instead will run from.

SOME..WOMEN…ARE…NOT…READY and due to any number of issues, however “responsive” they are, they will NOT be able to carry out the required ACTIONS.

Keep on Sarging, the women who ARE ready are waiting… so what in Debbie’s delights are you waiting FOR?

Peace, piece and I LOVE this job,
RJ

P.S. A critical component of Speed Seduction® mastery is knowing, based on the verbal and nonverbal cues a woman gives you, when her responsiveness is likely to translate into action vs. when it might be best to “Exit, Stage Left.”

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Today, I am pretty tired.

I’m not only tired but I look pretty unkempt: haven’t shaved, combed my hair, and am wearing sweats and sandals.

You know what that means, dontcha?

Perfect time to pick up women!

So, I’m in the Walgreen’s, and I had an opportunity to demonstrate to myself a great pick-up principle that I regularly teach.

What is that principle?

Simply this: no matter what you say, at first, to meet a woman, you can still use it to get her open and willing to talk to you and meet you, even if what you say comes off as cheesy, stupid and dumb.

Case in point: at the Walgreen’s, I’m in line, and this lovely lady who looked like a ballet dancer or yoga teacher gets in line next to me. I say to her, “Do you do yoga?”

She very neutrally says, “no”.

“Dance?” I ask.

“No”, she says.

I look at her and say, “Ok, I’m returning that “How To Pick Up Girls in Line At Walgreen’s” book because it isn’t working.”

She laughs at that point, so I say, “Now, I’m glad you laughed because I wanted to check out your sense of humor before I introduced myself. I’m Ross”.

She says, “I have a boyfriend.”

My reply?

“No offense, but just because I’m talking to a girl doesn’t necessarily mean I want to date her, but I admire your confidence.”

She laughs again, “Seriously” she says. “I really am in love with him but you are the most confident and original guy I’ve met in a long time. I really hope you find someone amazing to match you.”

How do you like that? SHE was Speed Seducing me!

Now, I did not get a number or another meeting with this girl, but that isn’t my point.

The point is, what I originally used to try to meet her FELL FLAT AS A STONE.

That didn’t stop me.

I simply used it and used her responses to poke fun at myself, relieve the tension, and get her much more open to talking.

Also notice that when she said, “I have a boyfriend” I turned it around on her and played with HER assumption that I was ready to go out with her.

This is all an illustration of one of my key principles: whatever response she gives you is the right response, if you know what to do with it and can keep your state calm and steady.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Your Speed Seduction® 3.0 Course is waiting for you; your key to confidence, success, choice and power with the women you really want, with no bullying, no buying and no begging!

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

So based on the massive turnout for last month’s Give V Day The Finger live broadcast, I’m seeing how much fun it is to talk to you guys in real time.

An idea I had for this month is to open up my cell phone for a marathon 4 hour “Call In To RJ” day.

You’d get to call my cell and ask me ANY two questions about your situation with chicks, and put my 20 years experience coaching, teaching and training guys to complete success with women, on your side and in your corner.

What would I charge for this?

Nuthin’.

Zip.

Nada.

If I agreed to do this, free, would you agree to tell your friends about the event? Email? Tweet? Facebook? Let everyone know?  Do a Youtube video about it and spread the word about the link that contains the pass for the event?

Let me know, because you see, I LOVE doing this kind of thing. I love talking to you students. It’s what makes me the happiest in my job.

Tell me your thoughts by commenting below.

RJ

P.S. My seminar schedule is up on my website.  I may add a seminar in Chicago and a seminar in South Africa for 2010. I’m still not sure yet.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever had it happen where for some reason, you just can’t stop thinking about a particular chick?

Like, you spend hours visioning what your next meeting (or even phone call) will be like, exactly what you’re going to say?

Then, you find yourself agonizing over the right time of day you should call her? Suddenly worried that she might see what you put on your Facebook wall and fretting that she might interpret your status a certain way (that keeps your willy dry)?

Normally I ask, when I get questions like this I ask, first, foremost, uppermost, and important-most,

Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman
on the whole freaking planet???

However. in this case I think you realize that she isn’t. It’s just that there’s something inside of you keeping you fixated on this one chick.

First, you’re probably placing too much importance on this one chick. Have you f@@ked her yet? (It’s a yes or no question; either your Junior Explorer has explored her woman cave, or it hasn’t.)

Next, define “importance”. Importance as in sexually wanting her, or importance is in her being someone you connect with on an emotional/caring level?

I’d be VERY careful about connecting too strongly with women, emotionally, unless you are well into f@@king them. Most guys underestimate their need to care for someone and emotionally connect with.

A lot of times guys find their “stuckness” can be exacerbated by being confused by that woman’s emotional 180s, fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other deeply frustrating and seemingly (to you) irrational actions. Sound familiar?

Sometimes I feel I stand at the fulcrum between two things: the living wall of fire that it is my lust and the flood of water that is my compassion and my need to connect and care. Can make things at times confusing, yes?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. RIGHT NOW is the time to leave all that behind, to get “unstuck,” and instead gain a comprehensive understanding of women that helps you put it all perspective.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Have you ever found yourself shying away from a Sarge because you worried that she won’t find you attractive? Well, when you “hold back” out of fear that she will shoot you down over your looks, then you’re ripping two people off:

1. HER, because you’re not giving HER the chance to decide if you’re the guy who will take her to new heights of excitement and pulsating pleasure, and
2. YOU, because you’re denying yourself the success with the women you truly desire.

So stick with me for a minute while I’ll explain…

Why You’re C@&k-Blocking Yourself
(And Dissing All Hot Women)
By Letting Your Own Looks Getting In The Way

First, if you reek of f@@king body odor and make people gag and have snot-stains on your t-shirt, YOU ARE IN TROUBLE. Hygiene DOES matter. For goodness’ sake, take care of yourself!

Now that being said, asking if “looks matter” is like asking “do strength and size matter in a fight?”

Sure… all other things being equal. The stronger, bigger guy with equal motivation and skill and determination will almost certainly beat the weaker, smaller guy… UNLESS THE SMALLER GUY PICKS UP A WEAPON AND GETS IN THE FIRST GOOD F@@KING HIT!

Most of the time, if you aren’t (in your own mind, perhaps) fabulously great looking, BUT you take good care of yourself, a woman will be neutral to your look. She won’t rule you out but she won’t be feeling any butterflies or pangs of irresistible arousal EITHER. That’s where your girl-getting game comes in…to create those feelings.

Look: I wish I looked like a movie star. But I don’t. I am who I am. So, am I going to cry in my f@@king chicken soup about it? Or am I going to use everything I DO have to get where I want to go?

Present yourself as best you can physically, take good care of yourself, wear clothes that fit you well RIGHT NOW. Stop c@&k-blocking yourself until you “lose a few” or “get your teeth fixed” or whatever excuse you’ve been making, and instead crank up your girl-getting game and you’ll find out that chicks will, in fact, dig you.

The women are waiting… so what in jumping Jenny’s panties are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Recently on my blog, I delved into how to handle it when a woman cancels a meeting or date and gives an “excuse” – especially when it happens through a text message. Even skilled Seduction masters run up against this from time to time – it’s a challenge almost every guy faces.

Sometimes, this form of rejection can really get you down. (What’s that they say about how all your “ups and downs” with women should be in the bedroom?) A student wrote to me in response to that post; apparently a chick he was really into had just flaked via text message and he wasn’t taking it well…

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Ross, your post about chicks who cancel through text message hit me right at home. I have been seeing this one chick for about four weeks now, and I thought things were going well. She was supposed to come over tonight. Then, I got a text message where she cancelled and made no mention of rescheduling or even that she was sorry she had to cancel.

How should I respond to it? My energy just collapsed when she said this. In previous situations this would be enough for me to say “f@@k you, you’re out” and move on. For some reason, I perceived this rejection was coming way before it happened. What should I do?

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Sounds like you want to move forward, but you also need to be totally certain before you take a step. However, these two things are two conflicting desires bumping up against one another. The resulting “friction” is what causes the suffering and you “perceiving rejection”.

The All-Important First Step That Breaks You Free
Of The Shackles Of Uncertainty And The Feeling
Of “Impending Doom”

You need to let go of the need to be certain. Be aware of your uncertainty, but separate the raw physical sensations of uncertainty from the internal dialog or imagery you put yourself through when you’re worried she might cancel a meeting or dump you altogether.

Once you accomplish this, there is no more fuel to power the engine of your ongoing “story” that has kept you chained to the restraints of doubt. Now, you have the energy to create a NEW story about how you respond, what you can do, etc., that will get you laid far more often.

With this change, the “vibe” you put out to women will be grounded, quiet, flexible and attractive BEFORE YOU EVEN OPEN YOUR MOUTH. It will no longer have to push out through your noise/friction. Your messages can be delivered with far less “push/voltage/intensity,” so they don’t creep women out / blow them out of the water / break the rapport necessary to get her into your bed.

That’s not a bad result for one simple process, is it?

Bet that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The keys to your liberation from the shackles of uncertainty and doubt, that open the doors to the hottest babes who can’t wait to ride the carnal carousel with you, are contained within my Nail Your Inner Game System.

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