Are You Self-Programming Your Way Into Loneliness?
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Some people are loners who for reasons of their own, can’t or won’t let anyone in their lives. They feel better without anyone around.
Some people choose the “single life” as a proactive choice for how they go through life. There’s a whole movement around this.
And some people feel they can’t be happy if they don’t have someone in their life. Sometimes they enter or put up with real-hate-shun-ships by default rather than be single.
A student of mine reported the following:
> I cant seem to be happy on my own, theres always a part of me thats a little lonely and a little upset all the time. When I have success with a girl the feeling is replaced with joy, but when i screw up and things don’t work out it really gets to me.
RJ here again. Look at how you are languaging it.
If you had a dear friend, who was having trouble with women, would you allow HIM to keep repeating to HIMSELF, “I can’t seem to be happy on my own.”
How many times have you fed your mind that suggestion?
If you mind accepts that suggestion, on a deep level, what do you think will happen to your attempts to be happy on your own?
You need to un-tangle these two things:
“I feel lonely” and “I can’t seem to be happy on my own”
One of them is true, sometimes. The other one is a belief that you are adding power to every time you say it. It’s actually making the problem more acute, not worse.
Look: every human has a need for human company and connection. It’s totally ok to have that need/desire/want DIRECT your behavior.
The problem is when that need/desire/want gets tied in with self-programming commands like, “I can’t seem to be happy on my own”.
So how could you go about separating the raw feelings of loneliness from the story you are attaching to it?
Hmmmm…
Peace and piece,
RJ
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